Handling Life’s Transitions as We Move into the New Year

You know how it goes. You’re cruising along in life, and suddenly the road takes a sharp turn. Perhaps the road signs warned you. Perhaps it came by surprise. In either case, life will never be the same. Consider the roads you have traveled. No doubt you’re facing circumstances today that you hadn’t expected to face 5 years ago, 5 months ago, or even 5 days ago, but here you are. Perhaps you or your loved one has health problems, or you have become a new parent, and you not only have a new little cherub to care for, but your body has changed! It will never be the same, or so you think. Perhaps you have lost a loved one, lost your job or spouse, or are facing other transitions in your life.

The last Christmas with Brian Perri

There are so many life transitions and issues that we must cope with, that if l were to touch on all of them, they would fill multiple books. Instead, Handling Life’s Transitions as We Move Into the New Year is the first in a series that will provide an opportunity for you to reflect on 2023, the transitions you are facing, and hopefully provide general guidelines on getting through them as we move into the new year and beyond. You’ll notice a common theme – controlling the controllable.

The Snowball Effect

If you’re a writer, whether published or not, joining other writers in a writers’ group is highly encouraged. An article written by Amanda Cabot, Thyme with Other Writers is an enlightening article that addresses the importance of being a part of a writers’ group.

Writers' group, writing retreat
Writing Retreat with some members of our writers’ group.

I had been a part of a phenomenal group of writers for 14 years when difficult life transitions hit a number of its members and the group dissolved. This particular group was special and was a source of inspiration and motivation for me. These life transitions snowballed into mine.

controlling the controllable

To get through these transitions and my own, I looked at what I can control – my time, efforts, attitude, and maintaining important relationships–and focused on controlling the controllable.

Although we no longer meet as a group, I have maintained special relationships with a few. These special relationships were the impetus for the motivation, support, and invaluable assistance I received in getting After the Verdict, Book Two in the Search & Recovery International Series, ready for preorder with a January 11, 2024 release date. Thank you, Amanda Cabot, Leslie Sartor, and Jane Choate, for your support, prayers, and the sharing of your invaluable expertise and skill.

What transitions have you gone through in 2023? What can you control?

A missing groom, a murdered attorney, a massive snowstorm—what else can go wrong with what was supposed to be a storybook wedding?

Gutsy Colorado lawyer Briana Bertelli has just successfully prosecuted a serial killer…or has she? Betrayed in previous relationships, she’s vowed to remain single and dependent on no one but herself. All goes according to plan until her best friend’s wedding rehearsal.

Highly decorated, retired Special Forces veteran Kale McLaren has seen much death and is ready to experience a new life.

Now the Chief Operating Officer of a global special ops organization, he’s looking forward to a relaxing weekend at a friend’s wedding. The last thing he expects is to be brought face-to-face with death and the most intriguing woman he has ever met … Briana.

With the highest of stakes and time running out, can Briana and Kale combine forces to discover what happened after the verdict?

You do not need to read the first book in the series, Search Beyond Lies, in order to enjoy the second.

Search Beyond Lies is a work of fiction, inspired by true events.

A suspense thriller with a dash of romance, Search Beyond Lies tells the story

of the search for a missing scientist, a top-secret project, and a ticking clock. Desperate to find his friend and mentor, James Frankel knows that only former Army Ranger, Charlie Sommer can help him. But how can he trust a woman who’s keeping secrets?

As a former Army Ranger, Charlie Sommers garnered the reputation of having the highest search and rescue success rate, but she’s plagued by the one she left behind. Now she’s on the verge of an exciting new beginning as a part of Search & Recovery International where her secrets are safe. There’s only one problem: the new assignment will take her back to Colorado and the loss that still haunts her.

The clock is ticking down. With their lives–and their hearts–at risk, Charlie and James join forces in an attempt to save the scientist and the world from catastrophe while finding the truth beyond lies in this action-packed thriller. It is available at https://amzn.to/3ueVmTO.

Thyme with Other Writers by Amanda Cabot

Texas Dreams trilogy, the Westward Winds series, the Texas Crossroads trilogy, A Stolen Heart, Christmas Roses
Amanda Cabot,
bestselling author of more than thirty novels

We are happy to have Amanda Cabot as our guest today on Thyme for Writers.  Amanda is the bestselling author of more than thirty novels including the Texas Dreams trilogy, the Westward Winds series, the Texas Crossroads trilogy, A Stolen Heart, and Christmas Roses. A former director of Information Technology, she has written everything from technical books and articles for IT professionals to mysteries for teenagers and romances for all ages. Amanda is delighted to now be a fulltime writer of Christian romances, living happily ever after with her husband in Wyoming.

Thyme with Other Writers

I’ve been a fan of this column ever since Karen began it and continue to be impressed by the variety of advice other writers have provided in their posts. They’ve definitely added spice and seasoning to my writing journey.

I found myself nodding in agreement as I read Ann Gabhart’s “Thyme to Think and Dream” post last fall. Ann challenged us to spend time alone, just thinking, and to let ourselves be bored, since boredom can lead to daydreaming, and daydreaming can trigger the sparks we need for a new story. While I agree with Ann, today I want to talk about the other side of the coin, namely our need for time with other writers.

Texas Dreams trilogy, the Westward Winds series, the Texas Crossroads trilogy, A Stolen Heart, Christmas Roses, writing tips, writers’ group
Thyme for Writers

Writing is, almost by definition, a solitary pursuit, and many writers either are or become introverts, simply because they spend so much time with only their characters for company. Don’t misunderstand me. Characters can be wonderfully entertaining, but they have their limits. They are, after all, imaginary.

As writers, we’re communicators. I suspect that need is part of our DNA, which is why we spend so much time on email loops, reading various agents’ blog posts, and checking in with other writers. All of that is good, and it serves a valuable purpose. But it’s not a substitute for time with real, live writers. We need to emerge from our writing caves and spend time, not only with friends and family, but also with other writers. That’s why I recommend that all writers join a writers’ group.

Whether you call it networking or simple camaraderie, the sharing of ideas that occurs in a writers’ group is truly priceless. Only other authors understand the problems you’re encountering. Only other authors truly understand the joy of a first sale or the euphoria of receiving a letter from a reader telling you she stayed up all night to finish your book. Only other authors can help you find a way to salvage a manuscript when you’ve received what feels like the hundredth rejection on a story you thought would sell the first time out.

But, you might be saying, I can get all that online. Not so. Virtual hugs and smiles aren’t the same as real flesh and blood ones, and even Facetime conversations aren’t the same as being together. In order to grow, in order to thrive, we need to be in the company of other writers.

It may take a while to find one with the right chemistry for you, but once you’ve found a group where you feel comfortable, you’ll wonder how you ever existed without it. Share thyme with other authors. It’ll renew your enthusiasm for writing and provide the seasoning you need to turn a good manuscript into a great one.

Amanda Cabot, Cimarron Creek, A Stolen Heart
A Borrowed Dream
by Amanda Cabot
Cimarron Creek Trilogy

Check out Amanda’s second in the Cimarron Creek trilogy, A Borrowed Dream scheduled for release March 20.

There is no such thing as an impossible dream … .

Catherine Whitfield is sure that she will never again be able to trust anyone in the medical profession after the local doctor’s treatments killed her mother. Despite her loneliness and her broken heart, she carries bravely on as Cimarron Creek’s dutiful schoolteacher, resigned to a life where dreams rarely come true.

Austin Goddard is a newcomer to Cimarron Creek. Posing as a rancher, he fled to Texas to protect his daughter from a dangerous criminal. He’s managed to keep his past as a surgeon a secret. But when Catherine Whitfield captures his heart, he wonders how long he will be able to keep up the charade.

With a deft hand, Amanda Cabot teases out the strands of love, deception, and redemption in this charming tale of dreams deferred and hopes becoming reality.

(C) 2018 Amanda Cabot

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