The Wedding Hotel Accommodations — Historic vs. Contemporary

Don’t forget the wedding hotel accommodations for your guests. Block room discounts are quite helpful! If you’ve chosen an historic venue for the ceremony and/or reception, that doesn’t mean you would necessarily want an historic venue for your hotel accommodations. There are definite pros and cons.

Historic Hotel Accommodations
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Portrait of F.O. Stanley
The Stanley Hotel

The main pro for using an historic hotel for your wedding guests’ hotel accommodations is the opportunity to become immersed in the beauty of the hotel’s history. Although I had stayed at the Stanley years before and had an interesting, if not sleep deprived stay (our sleep was regularly interrupted by guests who considered themselves “ghost busters”), the only consideration which prompted me to find an alternate hotel for our guests was the cost. I chose a more contemporary hotel as an alternate hotel very close to the Stanley — The Best Western Plus. Fortunately, it was one of the best decisions I made.

If an historic hotel is top on your list for hotel accommodations, I recommend you use the following checklist — you may want to provide an alternate or choose a contemporary hotel:

Room 217, Stanley Hotel, Estes Park, Colorado
Room 217 – Stanley Hotel Estes Park, CO
Historic Hotel Checklist

___ How soundproof are the rooms? Can you hear your neighbor’s regular speaking voices? If you can, it might not be the best place for the wedding party. Often the bridal party consists of friends and family who haven’t seen each other in a while and they want to catch up on each other’s lives. If the walls are like paper, you’ll have your neighbors complaining.

___ Check out the rooms carefully. The American with Disabilities Act was not around when the hotel was built. Although accommodations are supposed to meet ADA guidelines, only so much can be done with an historic hotel.

___ If your guests are tall, does the top floor of the hotel have dormers where your guest can crack his or her head?

Stanley Hotel, Estes Park, Colorado, Room 217, Bear-Clawed Tub
The Stanley Hotel
Room 217 Bear-Clawed Tub

___ Does the bathroom have a shower your guest can easily climb in and out of or is it a bear-clawed tub with a shower wand which may be fine for a younger guest, but could prove very dangerous for an older one?

___ Is there a closet or somewhere safe to hang the bridal gown or bridesmaids dresses?

___ If the shower was remodeled, was it properly finished with a

  • safety bar
  • soap tray
  • ledge for shampoo
  • non-slip floor?
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Bride & Groom Courtesy of Laura Grace Photography

___ Will the wedding be held in the winter where it may snow? If it is

  • How safe is the ingress and egress to the hotel?
  • Are stairs the most likely option?
  • In a snowy/icy environment, shoveling may not be adequate and there may not be enough staff to keep the walkways and parking lot safe.

__ Are tours provided? (See last week’s article for other concerns where there are tours.)
__ Will the tours interfere with a restful night sleep for your guests?

This article focused on issues that could arise with with providing accommodations at an historic hotel. The next article will provide additional considerations is selecting just the right hotel regardless of whether it is historic or contemporary. Of course I’ll provide another checklist — I love them!

What were your experiences with an historic hotel?

(C) 2018, Karen Van Den Heuvel

The Wedding Celebrant — Who Do You Want to Marry You?

The wedding celebrant has the most important role — marrying the bride and groom. As the wedding planner, my first question to my daughter was, “Who do you want to marry you?” Without hesitation, she replied, “Father Mbala.”

How We Met
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Father Mbala

When we first moved to Colorado, we did what a lot of people do, we church hopped to find the right fit. Father Felicien Mbala was a missionary priest from the Dominican Republic of Congo assigned to St. John the Evangelist Catholic Church, our new church home. A brilliant man (he speaks more than a half dozen languages fluently) with a heart for people, he made a big impact on our lives.

The Question
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Thanksgiving

He stayed at our church longer than normal for a missionary priest, and without family, he shared a couple of Thanksgivings with us where we got to know him better. At the time my daughter told me that there was only one person she wanted to marry them, Father Mbala, his assignment was the University of Colorado in Boulder. When my husband and I asked him to marry Victoria and Rob, his response was immediate — he was honored.

Our Lady of the Mountains

The pastor of Our Lady of the Mountains had no problem with a guest priest, especially since he was not available to perform the ceremony. University of Colorado was not far from Estes Park (about 40 minutes), however, Father Mbala got transferred before the wedding to Breckenridge, quite a distance away. Fortunately for us, he still looked forward to performing the ceremony.

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Wedding Rehearsal

Father Mbala was there for the rehearsal and walked us through what would happen along with Deacon George (the new wedding planner for the church) and his wife. From the bride and groom to those who gave the readings, sang, and participated in the bridal party, we were all clear on the expectations.

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Wedding Ceremony with Father Mbala

On the day of the wedding, we couldn’t ask for a more beautiful and memorable wedding ceremony. Father Mbala clearly had an effect on all of our hearts, and made it especially touching for the bride and groom. We all left with his special blessing.

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Rob, Victoria & Father Mbala

Thank you Father Mbala! You truly are a reflection of God’s love.

(c) 2018, Karen Van Den Heuvel

The Music — A Requirement for Every Wedding Ceremony

The music is a requirement for every wedding ceremony regardless of where you have it. As the wedding planner, I never imagined one of my most difficult tasks would be finding the musician for the wedding ceremony. My dilemma arose because of the date — great for some aspects of wedding planning, but a major drawback when it came to the instrumentals.

The Musician
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Organ, Our Lady of the Mountains, Estes Park, CO

Organ, piano, harp, guitar,…. your preferred instrument dictates your choice of musicians…so does the date and the church. The church typically has a list of musicians who play for weddings, but they may not be available, as was the case for us. What also surprised me was that very few felt comfortable on an organ.

A Christmas wedding precluded the entire list — they were either out of town, with family, or worked for the post office (the Saturday before Christmas is their busiest time of year). I then tried surrounding churches with similar results. Estes Park is driving distance from 3 major universities with music departments, but alas, it was Christmas break.

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Groom Seating His Parents – Courtesy of Laura Grace Photography

The groom’s mother was a pianist, but I couldn’t ask her, after all, she was the mother of the groom and wanted to enjoy the wedding, as she should. With less than a month before the wedding, I contacted Lisa, the Director of Music for my church and fortunately she agreed to rearrange her schedule in order to help out. Although she did not play the organ, she played a beautiful piano. She also agreed to come up before the rehearsal the day before to tune in with both singers. Thank you Lisa!

The Singers
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Bridal Party Processional – Carleen, Courtesy of Laura Grace Photography

We were blessed with the singers. Where some have trouble finding just the right beautiful voice, we had 2, both bridesmaids — my daughter’s former college roommate, Carleen, agreed to sing Ave Maria (a very difficult Latin song) as well as the Psalms, and the groom’s sister sang O Holy Night. Ave Maria filled the church as the mothers were escorted to their seats. Carleen set the perfect tone, her voice filling our hearts.

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Sarah — Courtesy of Laura Grace Photography

After the bride and groom exchanged rings, Sarah sang one of my favorite songs, O Holy Night. Our videographer, Jack Dorfman, did a phenomenal job memorializing the entire ceremony, including the music.

The Procession

I never thought about the music choices available for the procession — one for the bride and the other for the bridal party. Our pianist provided a list, but I contacted a former colleague, Cassandra, who not only had her master’s in music, but was fairly recently married (within the last 5 years, whereas I’ve been married 34 years) and she sent me a comprehensive list as well. Needless to say, the bridesmaid and maid of honor chose the music from Cassandra’s list: Yirma – River Flows in You for the bridesmaids and Canon in D – Palchelbel for the bride’s procession. Although our pianist did not know River Flows in You, she bought the music and learned it. Wow!

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Recessional – Joyful Joyful! – Courtesy of Laura Grace Photography

I love Christmas music, with Ave Maria and O Holy Night near the top of the list. Joyful, Joyful, We Adore Thee (or Ode to Joy/Bach) was the Recessional as the bride and groom walked out of the church with big beautiful smiles. Thanks to everyone involved, the ceremony was indeed a memorable success.

What’s your favorite Christmas music?

(c) 2018, Karen Van Den Heuvel

Beautiful Bridesmaids Dressed to Perfection

Every bride wants their beautiful bridesmaids dressed to perfection, with specially designed jewelry that sets off the gown and accents each girl’s beauty with just the right sparkle. My daughter chose a beautiful, reasonably priced, Christmas green dress in a style designed for many body types (the dress I was not going to touch, and you know why). Now the jewelry was right up my alley — about the only thing I was uniquely qualified to handle with the necessary experience.

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Bride & Bridesmaids
Courtesy of Laura Grace Photography
A Little History

It all started when my daughter was just 13 years old. She asked for a small Swarovski Crystal necklace for her birthday. We lived in South Florida and at that time, the going rate was about $200. As a frugal, conscientious mom, my response was brief, “Sweetheart, unfortunately that’s a little steep and not in the budget.”

As a very creative young lady who thought outside the box, she responded, “What if I can find the crystal at a good price and we make it?”

I shrugged, “Why not?”

In short order, she found the Swarovski Crystal in bulk and at a fair price. Although the cost to make one necklace was reasonable, the up front cost to make the necklace with the remaining materials was not. Of course my creative, business minded daughter had the solution … . Since we already enjoyed making jewelry together, we’d make high quality jewelry to sell at art shows. Once we earned back our out-of-pocket expenses, we’d help others in need with the profits.

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Jacqueline & Elizabeth — Beautiful Bridesmaids — Courtesy of Laura Grace Photography

 

One of our offerings included original jewelry sets for the bride and bridesmaids …

Victoria designed the jewelry for her bridesmaids and I made it.

Oops

Last week it was all about the wedding cake, but that wasn’t my first major faux pas. My first lulu didn’t come to my attention until the rehearsal dinner. It was toward the end of a lovely dinner when my daughter gave the bridesmaids their gifts — a Swarovski Crystal and sterling silver jewelry set designed by her and made by me.

“Mom? We’re missing a set.”

“No we’re not. I made 6 sets.”

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Elizabeth, the Maid of Honor — Courtesy of Laura Grace Photography

“But there are 7 bridesmaids with the maid of honor.”

“Uh oh… . Give the 6 bridesmaids their gifts and tell your maid of honor (my niece, Elizabeth) what happened. I’ll make the 7th set before the wedding….”

Unique

The designs we make for each bridal party are unique, and in this case, I didn’t know if I had the materials left to make another set. Although we were staying at the Stanley because of the distance, I had to

  • make it back home before the wedding,
  • in bad weather,
  • with the closure of the main road closest to my house.
Beautiful Bridesmaids Dressed to Perfection
Bridesmaids Jewelry, Original Designs by Victoria

My husband and I left early the next morning and made it back with plenty of time and materials to make just one more set (and I do mean just one more down to the last sterling silver tube bead). And fortunately, I had a photo of the set from which to work.

But that also meant, if I had the wrong count for the bridesmaids gifts, then I also had the wrong count for … . Stay tuned next week for the next twist of the lemons… .

Beautiful Bridesmaids Dressed to Perfection
The Wedding Party at the Head Table — Courtesy of Laura Grace Photography

What was your biggest event planning oops?

(c) 2018, Karen Van Den Heuvel